I want to get some things clear however on some misconceptions some may have about adoption.

1.  It’s Expensive

Actually the adoption of our son this time is 100% free.  In fact his health care and special needs (counseling, doctors appointments) are covered by DSS and Medicaid until he is of age. We also will receive a stipend to assist his special needs until he is of age.

Martha Marie and I are starting to feel God call us to investigate international adoption as well.  That one will be free to us if it is a calling of God, because if it’s God’s will it’s His bill.  Realistically, it will cost thousands of dollars that we don’t have.  It will cost us more however if we do not simply obey God and do it if it is in his plan.

We should never not do something because it cost more than we can afford in time or money if it is God’s clear will and way for our lives.  We’ll miss out for sure.

2. He’s “Damaged Goods”

“Damaged goods” is a term many use for children that have been abused physically, emotionally, or sexually.  Some people are scared to deal with these issues.  We were once scared of this as well.  We are now going into this with confidence not knowing what in the world we’re doing, but knowing that our Savior Jesus will guide us every step of the way.  Our best resources Jesus is using at this time to give us this confidence is His Holy Word and the Word of God spoken through a book called The Connected Child by Karen Purvis.

We are all “damaged goods” by what sin does to us.  We have the opportunity to allow our son to be redeemed through Jesus Christ and to one day be adopted into the Kingdom of God just as Martha Marie and I have been.

3.  He’s Not Your Real Son

You’re right.  He’s ultimately God’s son.  God has just allowed us to borrow him and his sister (our biological child) for us to train them in the way they should go according to the Lord.

As of June 9 2009 he will legally be our son and bear our last name.

4.  He Will Want to Reconnect With His Birth Parents

Maybe he will.  Maybe he won’t.  If he does and we see the circumstances right, we may let him do that.